OPENING WORDS AND INTRODUCTION
The introductory words set the tone for the ceremony and usually say
something about the nature of marriage that is in keeping with the beliefs of
the couple. It is a statement about the occasion, its importance, its
significance to society as well as the people involved.
- Sample 1
Welcome, to all of you who have gathered today to share in this ceremony with
_______ and _______. The words which will be spoken here today are sacred,
although these words are not what joins these two. Indeed, it is not I who is
joining these two today at all, nor is it this ceremony.
We are not here to mark the start of a relationship; we are here to recognize
a bond that already exists. _______ and _______ have joined themselves together,
and we have gathered so that they might bear witness before us of the oneness
that has grown up between them. Here, they will affirm this oneness and this
dedication formally and publicly, as they have already affirmed it to each
other. As they now exist as one in their own eyes; so may they exist in yours.
This union has already occurred in the giving and receiving of their love and in
the myriad ways in which they have entwined their lives together.
We are here to witness their statement of love and commitment. This is an act
as ancient as the human race, and as new as each morning, for it speaks of the
past and of the future, of the life of the individual and the existence of the
Marriage is a going forth, a giving up of one way in search of a greater
fulfillment than either can achieve alone, risking what they are for what they
might be. _______ and _______ come now to declare their love and solemnize their
commitment. Today we celebrate their faith in the continuance of that growth as
they come to be united in marriage.
- Sample 2
We are gathered here to join this man and this woman /this couple in
marriage. This is an act as
ancient as the history of the human race and as new as each morning, for it
speaks of the past and of the future, of life of the individual and the
existence of the community.
Because marriage is concerned with the most fundamental of human
relationships, it must not be regarded lightly. Those who enter into this
relationship shall cherish for each other a mutual esteem and love, bear each
others' infirmities and weaknesses, comfort each other in sickness, trouble and
sorrow, encourage each other in trials of the spirit, and live together as the
heirs of life.
Because the family/couple is the foundation of human fellowship, marriage is
not to be entered into by any unadvisedly, but with devotion and discretion.
Love and loyalty will avail as the foundation of a happy and enduring home, and
if the solemn vows you are about to make are kept with honour and integrity,
your life will be full of peace and joy, and the home you are establishing will
be one of warmth and understanding.
- Sample 3
_______ and _______ are here today, with their family and friends, to declare
publicly their love for one another, and to be joined in marriage. This is much
more than a social and civil occasion, because it is the declaration of their
hearts, built upon experience, and enriched by their love. With love it is
possible to live a life together, each seeking and encouraging the joy, the
comfort, the health, and the enrichment of the other, all of which will divide
sorrow and multiply satisfactions.
- Sample 4
Friends, _______ and _______ have invited us here today to share in the
celebration of their marriage. We come together not to mark the start of a
relationship, but to recognize a bond that already exists. This marriage is one
expression of many varieties of love. Love is one, though its expressions are
We live in a world of joy and fear and search for meaning and strength in the
seeming disorder. We discover the truest guideline to our quest when we realize
love in all its magnitudes. Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force
that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage.
For the giving of yourself in love is difficult, for you must learn to give
of your love without total submission of yourself. Therefore, in your giving,
give your joy, your sadness, your interest, your understanding, your knowledge -
all expressions that make up life. But in this giving, remember to preserve
yourself - your integrity, your individuality. This is the challenge of love within marriage.